Tade had the stature of an 11 year old even though she was just 9 years old. The secondary sexual characteristics were barely noticeable in her. And when she talked, you could easily pick it that you were dealing with a child. She was in Grade 3 in a private school.
Tola was the younger sister. She had a smaller frame but what she lacked in stature, she compensated for with a very clever mind. She was in Grade 2.
Their parents were civil servants. The job description of the father did not permit him to be around home too often. The mother’s job didn’t allow her much time either, but at least, she would be home on a daily basis. Summer school, to this wonderful family, was a great relief during off-school seasons.
The two young girls attended summer school as usual but that particular year was different.
Tade’s teacher had asked her to come to his office after class where he gave her candies. She loved it and did not hesitate to return the following day just like the teacher had asked her. This continued for a few more days and she would always return at the invitation of the man. The second week was however different. The teacher touched her sensitive parts but did not go beyond that level.
By the third week, Tade was more interested in going to the private office of the man. And really, what child wouldn’t? Tola also was beginning to envy her older sister on account of the different types of candies Tade was bringing back. Why on earth did Tade not want her younger sister to follow her to the teacher’s office is what I still do not know.
Mr X went a bit farther on Monday. He went as far as removing Tade’s underwear and touching the place. She girl enjoyed the tickling. She was asked to come back on Tuesday and was given candies as usual. She was asked never to tell anyone and that she would get bigger and better candies. She returned the following day. And Mr X went farther. He tried penetrating her but could not. He however ejaculated on her perineum. He cleaned her up and gave more candies.
Wednesday came and while he was trying his evil act, Tola showed up. He had forgotten to secure the door and the amount of candies on display the previous day was too tempting for Tola not to try to understand what was going on. She came in at the point when the paedophile was ejaculating on the poor girl. Of course, Mr X was embarrassed to see a stranger in the office, but as the uncle, he “handled the situation well”. Tola was given as many candies as she wanted just like her older sister got. Both were warned sternly not to tell their mum or anybody.
That evening, the mother suspected something was wrong with her older daughter. First, she was a bit more withdrawn than usual. Her thoughts were she could be incubating an illness. When she asked her to come closer, she noticed she walked with a little limp. She was disturbed.
She asked her questions upon questions but Tade would not talk. It was then Tola asked if their mum would not tell Tade’s teacher. She promised not to talk of it outside and Tola reported how Mr X had urinated ice cream on Tade in the school after their summer class. Mum was baffled, and could not comprehend what her daughter had just said. She did check her daughter and felt she had been assaulted but could not ascertain if she was violated.
The following morning, she presented at the nearest Police Station and was asked to get a medical report. Medical examination revealed a girl that was apprehensive, and a limited gynecologic examination revealed she had been assaulted but the hymen was not broken. The mum was devastated!
She reported back to the Police Station and the paedophile was arrested.
Tade was taken to see a gynaecologist, and also had some sessions with a clinical psychologist. As of the last I saw her, she appeared to be doing well.
PS: Sexual assault is real. Paedophiles are found in almost any imaginable place. It is no longer safe to entrust your children or wards to teachers like back in those days. Uncles are not necessarily safe either.
It behooves the parents to train their children/wards on sex education at an early age and train them to identify and resist sexual advances.
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